Wanna have a great marriage? Read this and take action NOW....

One of the toughest places to live out our faith is in our marriages, but it can be done.  It should be done.  It must be done!  

When the Holy Spirit takes center stage in your marriage and we learn to follow Christ there there is music like none other from the car rides to the ball-game to dinner-time to the bed and back to everyday living.  It's possible to have a great marriage. BUT, it takes work and it takes sacrificial service for/to one another.  I received this email from a friend earlier and it's a powerful piece that will help you take your marriage to the next level.  

For those who want to go further I'd encourage you to click the link at the bottom of the page and dig into a treasure chest of helpful articles and consider going over to the '5 Love Languages' website from the resource page and learn more there as well.  

I'm cheering for your Marriage to THRIVE!  

Serve well,
Jeff

The Road to Greatness by Dr. Gary Chapman

 

We hope you will take time to read this article.  It is so true and something we all need to be reminded of from time to time.  We also encourage you to do the activities he recommends.


"The key that unlocks the door to a happy marriage is learning to serve your spouse!  Most of us admit that we entered marriage with lofty visions of how happy our spouses would make us.  When they did not perform up to our expectations, we experienced disappointment, hurt, and anger.  So, we made verbal demands designed to make them feel guilty.

"Have you ever said this, 'I don't understand how you could do that.  You know how it makes me feel.'  With such statements we try to manipulate their behavior.  We try to get what we want.  This approach is opposite of what Jesus taught.  'Whoever wants to be great must be your servant.'  Is this not the theme of the Christian life?  Learning to serve your spouse is the true road to greatness.

"In a good marriage, there is no king or queen shouting commands, only servants looking for ways to meet the needs of others.  Jesus said to His followers, 'You know that those who are rulers of the gentiles lord it over them...Not so with you. Instead whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant."

"History illustrates this  truth.  The truly great men and women of any age are those who serve others.  Thus, the greatest husbands are the greatest servants.  The wife who finds greatest fulfillment is the wife you learns to serve.  Let me make it practical.  Make a list of the ways you served your spouse yesterday.  Based on this list, 'How great are you?'

Our society has trained us to be assertive, not to be servants.  Servant-hood is not a favorite topic for semianrs, though it ought to be, for it is the only road to greatness.  Here's an idea:  Make a list of several things you know that your spouse would like for you to do.  Do one of them today, and another tomorrow.  Your spouse will in most cases notice your efforts and respond with appreciation. . .or possible bewilderment.  Either way, you're on the right track to becoming great.

To read more go to:  http://archive.constantcontact.com/fs016/1102482325051/archive/1102606994853.html

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