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Purchase a Poinsettia to honor a loved one

I forgot to mention this in the weekly email and wanted to make sure everyone knew of their opportunity to purchase a poinsettia.  This year we have many beautiful giant poinsettia's decorating our worship center.  We would love to see all of them sponsored by people in our congregation wishing to honor, pray for, and/or celebrate a family member or friend.  All you have to do is fill out the form attached and then bring the form and your $15.00 with you to church tomorrow.  We will put a little plaque on them in the honor of your loved one.  Then, on December 23rd or 24th you can take them home to enjoy for the rest of the Holidays.  You can print out this form or we will have some at the table in the lobby.  Just see Cori Monnin with questions and to reserve your beautiful flower.  

Thank you so much,

Meredith Lewis
Phos Community Church

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Best. Husband. Ever.

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Date: December 7, 2012, 11:25:12 AM EST
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Wives can't change their husbands, but wives can and do have a tremendous influence on their husbands. How can you make that influence positive?

Men respond positively to praise.

One of the most common complaints men make in my office is: "Dr. Chapman, in my work I am respected. People come to me for advice. But at home, all I get is criticism." What she considers suggestions, he reads as criticism. Her efforts to stimulate growth have backfired.  

 

The fastest way to influence a husband is to give him praise. Praise him for effort, not perfection. You may be asking, But if I praise him for mediocrity, will it not stifle growth? The answer is a resounding "No." Your praise urges him on to greater accomplishments.

 

My challenge is to look for things your husband is doing right and praise him. Praise him in private, praise him in front of the children, praise him in front of your parents and his parents, praise him in front of his peers. Then stand back and watch him go for the gold.


Requests are more productive than demands. 
None of us like to be controlled, and demands are efforts at controlling. "If you don't mow the grass this afternoon, then I'm going to mow it." I wouldn't make that demand unless you want to be the permanent lawn mower. It is far more effective to say, "Do you know what would really make me happy?" Wait until he asks, "What?" Then say, "If you could find time this afternoon to mow the grass. You always do such a great job."

Let me illustrate by applying the principle to you. How do you feel when your husband says "I haven't had an apple pie since the baby was born. I don't guess I'm going to get any more apple pies for eighteen years"?  Now, doesn't that motivate you? But what if he says, "You know what I'd really like to have? One of your apple pies. You make the best apple pies in the world. Sometime when you get a chance, I'd really love one of your apple pies. Chances are he'll have an apple pie before the week is over. Requests are more productive than demands.

 Love is a two way street. 
If a wife wants to enhance her husband's ability to give her emotional love, perhaps her greatest influence will be in loving him. In my book, The 5 Love Languages, I talk about the importance of discovering your husband's primary love language - the thing that really makes him feel loved: words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, physical touch, or acts of service. Once you discover it, pour it on. Husbands are drawn to wives who are meeting their emotional need for love.  

Can you do it, even if he is not loving you. God did. He loved us when we were unlovely. But that's God. I'm me. I know, but you are God's child and He can empower you to love an unlovely spouse. I've seen it many times. A wife chooses to speak her husband's love language, even though she doesn't feel loved by him. He warms up and in time begins expressing her love language. Can emotional love be re-born in a marriage? You bet. But someone must begin the process. Why not you?    

Defensiveness reveals the inner self.
A wife says, "Why does my husband get so defensive? All I have to do is mention that the grass needs mowing and he goes ballistic."

This husband is revealing his self-esteem hot spot. Some experience in his past has tied his sense of self worth to mowing the grass. Your mention of the grass translates "She thinks I'm not doing my job. I work like crazy, and now she is on my case about the grass." He sees it as a negative statement about his worth.  

I know you didn't mean it that way. That's why I suggesting you observe his defensiveness, so that you can learn what is going on inside of him. We don't know these emotional hot spots until we touch one. It would be a good idea to make a list of all your husband's defensive reactions. Note what you said and did and how he responded. This insight will help you discover another way to discuss the topic that will be less threatening to his self-esteem.  

Both husbands and wives hold a tremendous influence on their spouse. However, it is up to you whether your influence is positive.


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Kid's Christmas Party and Song Practice

Mark your calendars for some Christmas fun!
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On Saturday, December 15, all kids (5th grade and under) are invited to our Phos Kids Christmas party!  Meet at 4200 at 9 AM and be ready to hear the Christmas story, decorate cupcakes for Jesus' birthday and build "gingerbread" nativity scenes.

The party will finish around 11 AM, but stick around until noon because then, we will be practicing two songs to sing with the Phos band on Sunday morning during both services AND Sunday night at the all-church Christmas dinner!  To get started on learning the songs, click the following links:

"O Come Let Us Adore You"
Girls will do the descant part and boys will sing the guys part in the song.  The band will do most of the verses.

"Born is the King"
Children will do the "Do do do" part and will sing "It's Christmas" throughout the song. 

Please call me at 640-4927 if you have any questions!

Thank you!
Laura 
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Last Official Teen Event of 2012

House Party at the Talley's this Sunday!
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This Sunday at 6 PM, join us at the Talley's house at 5450 Old LaGrange Road, 40014.  Bring a few dollars to donate, if you can, because we will be doing some Christmas shopping for some families in need!

And - remember to mark your calendars for June 24-28 - Crossings Summer Camp!

See you Sunday!
Laura 

 

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Christmas Basket Needs

A note from the Oldham County Inter Church Council about needs for the Christmas baskets we are packing on the 19th, see below.

You can email this address if you know of any boxes or would like to give:

Thanks,

Meredith


Dear Friends,

 

We are looking for lots and lots of copier paper boxes for the food baskets this year.  Our supplier did not have boxes to donate. I just found this out. Please let me know if you, your school or someone you know has lots of copier paper boxes that we could have.

Cash donations are appreciated too.  We have $5,000 toward our $10,000 goal. All the cash is used to pay for hams, bread, milk, sugar, potatoes, apples, peanut butter, dry beans and pancake mix for 325 local families.

Thank you!

Bobbie Stoess
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Kids Christmas Party

Hi to all parents and kids at Phos!

We are having a Christmas party on December 15 from 9 - 11 AM.  We'll decorate cupcakes for Jesus' birthday for the Phos Christmas dinner, hear the Christmas story and make "gingerbread" nativity scenes that you can take home!  From 11 AM-12 PM, we'll have song practice for any kids who want to participate in singing with the Phos band on Sunday morning and at the Christmas dinner!  Hope you can join us for all of it!

Thank you!
Laura


“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.  For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him."  (John 3:16-17)

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