5 Reasons to Follow God's Destiny for Your Life -- Prepare for worship this week @ Phos

For those who like to look ahead and pray & study your way into worship here ya go!  
See you Sunday at OCHS 10 AM.  (assuming that we don't have a weather event.  Be sure to check your inbox and the Phos News Blog on Sunday before you Go if the weather is wicked...)

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What happens when two groups get together @ Phos Church?

Groups are one of the best ways to connect at Phos and you'll see that sometimes it's just a little crazy....

Our group was having a 'Minute to Win It' Party last evening over at Kris and Steve Loftis' place.  The Mueller Group came out and partied with us and it was a blast.

Hope you'll get involved in a group when we crank em up again in January.  Let me know how I can help you connect.  
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The God I Want!

There was a book written some years ago with the title The God I Want.  If ever there were a recipe for idolatry, that is it.  The God of the Bible is not necessarily the God I want:  my confused desires almost certainly don't fit in with who he actually is, and just as well.  What matters much more is the God who actually made me, the God with whom (whether I want to or not) I have to do business.  And he is so much bigger and greater than anything that I could imagine that I must never imagine I have got him tied down and pigeonholed.  We need to be constantly looking harder at the God of the Bible.  Otherwise we shall discover that gradually the picture we have of him gets domesticated, whittled down to something we can live with.  And gods that we live with comfortably are idols.

From N.T. Wright's book 'Small Faith-Great God' page 28
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Snow Plan! Know before you go....

I'm so excited about worshipping with you this Sunday that I hope we don't have to change anything because of weather, but just in case. No news is good news and we'll be Worshipping together at 10 AM at OCHS, however; here's the game-plan on how you can 'Know Before You Go'.

If there are any changes -- delay or cancellation -- we'll let you know at 8:30 AM Sunday.
We'll post a delay or cancellation notice to our Weekly Email Distribution List 
and on the Phos News Blog
(if you don't get emails from us each week then you are NOT on the list, so send an email to jeff@phoschurch.com to get added) 

We'll also post our delayed schedule/cancellation notice on the WAVE 3 TV system.  
If there are a lot of closings they may be posted ONLINE only -- not on the Television.  
So go to http://www.wave3.com to check the Online postings after 8:30 AM Sunday. 

A couple of things to know:
If we do gather when the weather is 'bad' please dress for the weather -- wear boots and winter clothes in layers (OCHS Auditorium is always plenty warm in the winter!)

If we cancel:  Consider giving online or via mail as we still have ongoing obligations to help Phos gain even more traction and continue seeing lives changed!  The giving link is on the main site here.
Our mailing address is Phos Church, P.O. Box 33, Buckner, KY 40010
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Love Language Minute: Loving by Serving

I truly hope everyone who wants to be 'more in love' someday or who desires to build a stronger marriage will subscribe themselves to this resource!

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Date: Wed, Dec 8, 2010 at 12:03 PM
Subject: Love Language Minute: Loving by Serving

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Before marriage we are carried along by the emotions of the "in love" obsession. After marriage we revert to being the person we were before we "fell in love." This reality has implications for the single who is contemplating marriage.

Before you marry, you best find out what your potential spouse was like before the two of you "fell in love." Ask  parents, siblings,  work associates and friends, but by all means ask questions. Did they have an anger problem? Where they depressed? Were they friendly of selfish? Dependable or irresponsible? Did they have a problem with alcohol or drugs? Get the facts. Don't let the "in love" experience blind you to the truth.

Request vs. Demand
One of the five love languages is "acts of service". For some people, this is their primary love language. However, sometimes people make the mistake of demanding "acts of service." "If you loved me you would help me around the house." But, true love is a choice and cannot be coerced. Criticism and demands tend to drive wedges.

With enough criticism your spouse may do what you want, but it will not be an expression of love. You can give guidance to love by making requests: "Would you please mow the grass?" But you cannot create the 'will' to love. Each of us must decide daily to love or not to love. If 'acts of service' is the primary love language of your spouse then 'mowing the grass' will be loves loudest voice.

Listen Closely
If your spouse often criticizes you for not "helping them", they are telling you that 'acts of service' is their love language. People tend to criticize their spouse most loudly in the area where they themselves have the deepest emotional need. Their criticism is an ineffective way of pleading for love. If you understand this, you might respond more positively to their criticism.

You might say, "It sounds like that is really important to you. Could you explain why it is so crucial?" Initiating such a conversation may eventually turn the criticism into a request rather than a demand. When you hear a criticism, it's time to listen. Your spouse is giving you valuable information about what would make them feel loved.

Servant or Slave?
Are you a doormat or a lover? A doormat is an inanimate object. You can wipe your feet on it, step on it, kick it around, or whatever you like. It has no will of its own. It can be your slave, but not your lover. When we treat our spouses as objects, we preclude the possibility of love. No person should ever be a doormat. We are called to be servants.

Jesus said about himself, "I did not come to be served, but to serve." That should be our attitude. "What can I do to help you?" reveals a loving attitude. "You do this or you will regret it." Is the language of slavery. There is a vast difference between being a servant and being a slave. The servant acts out of love. The slave lives in response to fear.

Learn to Speak Your Spouse's Love Language
Recently a wife said to me, "I'm sending all of my friends to your marriage seminar." "Really, why?" I asked. "Before the seminar, Bob never helped me with anything. We both had our careers, but it was always my job to do all the house work. After the seminar he started asking me, "What can I do to help you this evening?" 

"I'll have to admit that at first there were trying and humorous times. The first time he did the laundry he used bleach instead of detergent. Our blue towels came out with white polka dots. But eventually he learned. It's wonderful. And, it's been going on for three years now." Why was this wife so happy? Because her husband learned to speak her love language.


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Christmas Eve Communion will be at Apple Patch Chapel at 4 and 5 PM this year ...

As you make your Christmas Plans please join us for Christmas Eve Candlelight Communion at the Apple Patch Chapel at either 4 or 5 PM.  

The 4 PM Service will feature a more kid-friendly sharing of the Christmas Story and our little ones are encouraged to bring their parents!

Directions:  Apple Patch Community is just about 1 Mile North of Exit 14 & I-71 on Highway 329 East.  The entrance to the neighborhood will be on your left and the Chapel is up on the hill to your left.  

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Drew Nichter is having knee surgery on Thursday ....

Pray with Drew and his crew as he'll be having knee surgery at Jewish Hospital on Breckinridge this Thursday.
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Pray with Jeana Platt about her uncle, Larry Maxwell

Please be in prayer for my Uncle, Larry Maxwell, he was hospitalized last Friday and diagnosed with a fungal infection in his lung.  In just a few days the fungus had doubled in size.  On Sunday evening he was transported by ambulance to the Cleveland Clinic and today they are running some test and evaluating him to determine if they should remove part of his lung.  For now they are treating the fungus with IV antibiotics (which has serious side affects that he is experiencing) and trying to get his immune system built up.  The surgery is a high risk and his condition is life threatening.  My Uncle Larry is a Christian and a member of Dallasburg Baptist Church in Owen County.  His wife and two daughters are by his side and appreciate your prayers.  

With sincere thanks,
Jeana

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Maybe you could help Mrs. Jean Curry this monday?

Jeff,
Dwayne has a dr. appt on Monday & needs someone to sit with his mom for 2 or
3 hours.  He will need to leave the house by 1:30.  I could probably be home
by 3:30.  One of us could definitely be home by 4:30.  Do you know of anyone
that could hang out at our house with his mom during that time?  It would
mainly involve just hanging out with her, & helping her get into and out of
the bathroom when she needs to go.  She can handle most of that herself, but
might need a little help getting her pants down & back up.

Call Dwayne or Jeanie if you are interested in learning more and possibly sitting with Mrs Jean this Monday, please.

Dwayne's number is 502-649-3377
Jeannie's number is 502-649-3836

Thanks, Jeanie
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Late Breaking Phos News ... 7 Important things

Just wanted to drop an extra email this week to update you on several action items:  
The Phos News Blog and Main Phos Website has all this info on it.  

You may want to sign up to Follow Phos on TWITTER or FACEBOOK -- go here and click the icons in the right column

1. YES, we are a GO for worship in the morning.  If we delay or cancel we'll send another email by 9 AM in the morning. (video here) Dress warm and comfortably for the weather (layers are best as OCHS is usually plenty warm in the winter!)

2.  Our Christmas Mission Project this year is on Monday, Dec 13  ... see the Phos News Blog to learn more

3.  The Phos Women have a special gathering on Wednesday, Dec 15 ... see the Phos News Blog to learn more

4.   Christmas Eve Communion will be offered at 4:30 and 5:30 PM this year.  Make plans to join us for this simply powerful experience.

5.  Charleston Mission 2011 is gonna be a blast.  Check out these 10 reasons to go with us.

6.  Giving to Phos changes lives and grows your faith muscles.  

We're seeing God work miracles in the lives of many people and when you give you are part of that!  Thanks.  

It'd be great to finish strong in 2010 and the stronger we finish the more we can do to fund some important 'Training Camps' to Grow Big People in 2011.  Any gifts received in December beyond the Core Budget needs will go to fund these Important Initiatives:
+We're lining up to take 150 people to Charleston in June and your gifts can help make that happen.  
+We're looking into a 'next step' property that will require a substantial upfront financial investment.  We need to begin to set funds aside now to prepare.  
+We'll be rolling out a very special Christian Spiritual Growth tool and Coaching process in early 2011 that's gonna help a lot of us GROW BIGGER in our relationship with Jesus. Every person at Phos is gonna benefit from this in a big way.  
+We'll be able to tackle some needs in the local community to help people really know that God loves them
+We'll be able to bless mission efforts here, there, and everywhere

I'm asking you and your family to prayerfully consider stepping up and giving even stronger than usual this month in honor of Jesus' birth and to accelerate Phos' Church mission here, there and everywhere.  

You can give to Phos Church online at the Phos Website, via mail to Phos Church P.O. Box 333 Buckner KY 40010, or at any live gathering.  

Let's set Phos up for our strongest efforts ever at Growing Big People in 2011 by Giving Magnificent Gifts in Honor of Our King this Christmas.

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